When you are first introduced to someone, during that initial conversation you ask them questions about their occupation, where they’re from, what school they attended, social activities, etc. Why do we all do this? We do this to make assessments about their background like their socio-economic status and the type of people they affiliate with regularly. The purpose of collecting this information is to gauge if we have any similar values. We instinctively go through this vetting ritual to determine if we have anything in common with this person, is there a connection between us that can add value to our life.
If there’s a common link that can potentially be meaningful, we will offer that person the opportunity to connect with us further. If there’s no apparent link, we will most likely end the interaction there. Therefore, offering ourselves to connect with another person is a gift that we consciously decide whether to give or withhold.
So what is the Connect with your Calling project about? An article in March 2014 issue of O Magazine by Dr. Sanjay Gupta (http://www.oprah.com/health/Just-Say-Hello-Fight-Loneliness) highlights a study that asserts a person’s quality of life is based on the number of meaningful connections they have with others and at any given time roughly 60 million Americans suffer from loneliness. To advocate for better mental health, O Magazine is promoting purposeful social interactions with the “Just Say Hello Campaign” where people are encouraged to say hello to a person they wouldn’t normally talk to or reconnect with a person they haven’t been in touch with for a while.
I plan to take this campaign one step further, during The Connect with your Calling project, I will intentionally seek to connect people that on the surface wouldn’t have anything in common but can empower each other to reach their full potential. I hope that you will follow this journey with me. It’s my desire that you realize there’s power in connecting that can help you as well as someone else create a more meaningful life.
There’s a powerful personality profile tool that I’ve been using with my clients that has had produced significant personal growth. So why is there such a buzz around Enneagram?
I used my Enneagram training to challenge my inaccurate beliefs that have been holding me back. Here’s what I would like to share about being content while working on your career: The journey to reach big goals will have highs and lows. Find something today that gives you joy in the current moment (celebrate the small victories) instead of focusing most of your energy on being preoccupied with the future. You can’t wait until you reach the destination to have joy, you’ll be happier if you enjoy every step and appreciate what you learn along the way.
The Enneagram (Ennea=9, Gram= Diagram) is simply a map for self-discovery and personality growth based on nine basic personality types. It reveals why you think, feel and behave in particular ways based on your core desires and fears. Through Enneagram coaching you will journey towards understanding how to overcome self-limiting behaviors, maximize your growth areas, and strengthening your abilities, both personally and professionally.
Who should consider coaching?
- Those interested in understanding how the Enneagram can aid in their growth and transformation, coaching will provide attention to spiritual and focal practices for each Enneagram type.
- Those looking for help through the Enneagram to understand relational dynamics in work, friendship and marriage, coaching will provide practical and useful wisdom.
It’s a brand new year and the time when people are making goals and resolutions for what they want to accomplish in 2019. Last year, I reached my goal to help more people obtain a meaningful career. I joined Know You Project, a Career Coaching company and became a Certified Enneagram Coach.
The current statistic is that only 6% of people stick with their resolutions. I’ve recently been introduced to a new train of thought about goal setting that has proven results. The reason people quit on their resolutions is because they focus on reaching the end goal. If they don’t make progress fast enough or get discouraged, they give up.
Instead of focusing on the end goal; focus on the person you would like to become. For instance, make a goal of wanting to be a person that’s healthy and physically active instead of losing weight. Once you see the benefit of feeling healthier and stronger that will keep you motivated to keep exercising regardless of how fast the pounds come off.
Another hot tool that I’m using to help clients achieve constant performance is Enneagram. It worked so well for me that I decided that I had to become a Certified Enneagram Coach. Enneagram is behavioral profile that identifies needs quickly and provides specific development paths based on a person’s Enneagram type which allows coaching to go faster, deeper and have long-lasting results. My clients can explore how each type likes to relate and interact with others and how their type affects their behavior and relationships. Also, they discover their growth areas to stay motivated and increase productivity.
My hope is by introducing you to these strategies, you will focus and move towards the person you want to become in 2019 instead of making the same resolutions.
I’ve fluctuated in my weight between 10 lbs on and off for the last 15 years. Last year, I met Fashion Designer Jeffery Banks and in our conversation he mentioned Weight Watchers so I thought I would give it a try. I recently reached my goal weight on Weight Watchers and I needed new clothes for my new size. To celebrate, I threw a private shopping party at a clothing store for other Weight Watchers members that needed new clothes as well and the manager gave us at least 50% off all clothing.
I called the event my Weight Watchers Before and After Party because the people took Before pictures with food they used to eat and then once they received a makeover they took an After picture with healthy food and Weight Watcher’s Kitchen products. I won the kitchen products from the Weight Watchers Better Together Sweepstakes so I decided to give them away as a door prize. The person with the the best After look won the Weight Watcher’s kitchen products. The pictures above show the Before and After looks of the woman who won, her name is Robin.
I wanted to pay it forward by giving the people who haven’t been able to enjoy shopping in the past because of their weight a full makeover with makeup, fashion and hair stylists. After the fashion stylists helped them pick out a new outfit for their new After look, they walked a fashion runway to celebrate their new look. For some, it was a life altering experience because it was the first time they felt beautiful.
The reason I’m sharing this story is because one of the top New Year’s Resolutions is to lose weight. It’s February and some people have already quit on their resolutions. I’ve given up on my health resolution in years past myself so I wanted to share some advice.
- Look over the past year and decide if what you’re doing to reach your goal is having impact.
I joined Weight Watchers because I knew that what I did in the past didn’t work and I know for me to be successful, I need to have accountability.
- Find meaningful ways to incorporate impact in your goals so they have more value.
After I lost weight, my clothes started becoming too loose for me and I needed a new wardrobe. I figured other Weight Watchers members were having this same issue so I looked for a way that as a group we could get a discount at a clothing store. Being able to have my weight loss help others as well created impact for me.
- Celebrate your success to create meaningful impact.
I’ve been trying to lose 15 pounds for 10 years. I decided to have a party to celebrate this accomplishment. At the same time, I wanted to have everyone that attended this party feel celebrated and beautiful by walking down a fashion runway after receiving a full makeover which made it more meaningful to me.
Decide to make 2018 a year of impact!
If you’re like me it’s easy to start goals but difficult to complete them. I just read Finish by Jon Acuff and it put me in a focused mindset.
According to a study conducted by the University of Scranton, 92% of resolutions fail.
That’s a staggering number considering how important goals are to companies.
You actually have a greater shot of getting into Julliard in New York City to be a ballerina than hitting your next sales goal.
Or your next budget reduction.
Or your next widget production.
At every element of your work, goals matter. What if we could do some simple things to improve how often we finished what we started? What if we could complete the incomplete projects and tasks? What if we could get more done in a world of bottomless opportunities and endless distractions?
How does Acuff know? Research, research and more research!
Jon suspected goal-completion was not luck or genetics. And he partnered with a university researcher to test what makes a person a CONSISTENT FINISHER instead of just a CHRONIC STARTER. The research team analyzed 900 people over a lengthy process. These are not just theories – these are principles built on analytics and research.
The good news is, you can learn to finish. It’s not a natural talent some people have and others do not. It can be taught. Ever have an employee, team member or department almost finish something? It’s time to learn what it really takes! Starting is fun, but the future belongs to finishers.
Without giving away too much of the book, here are two stats you can incorporate into your strategy to help you finish your goals.
2 Surprising Stats About Goals & Resolutions:
- People who work on small goals are 63% more successful.
- People who have fun are 46% more successful.
I wanted to give you an update on the fundraiser you donated to for Serena’s college supplies. Jillian and I did finish the 5K in about 40 minutes. I posted the video of her running and juggling on our social media. We raised about $1,200 for Serena thanks to your tremendous response.
This past weekend was tax free weekend so we went shopping and it was an amazing experience for Serena. She was able to buy her first pair of name brand tennis shoes. She has a retail job where she stands for long periods of time and needed shoes that wouldn’t hurt her feet.
In her dorm room, she’ll have a bed to sleep in for the first time so she was able to buy bed sheets and a comforter as well as all the items she needed for her dorm room. She was able to get under garments and clothes she needed as well as a scientific calculator for her Pre-Calculus class.
She was overwhelmed that people she didn’t know would help her so she would have what she needs for her 1st year of college. Thank you so much for your generous support to help this wonderful young woman that has persevered over many obstacles to get a full scholarship and be the first in her family to attend college.
This blog post was written by Major Ethan Frizzell of The Salvation Army.
Social capital (like human capital and even physical capital) is not a single, uni-dimensional variable. Rather, there are many forms of social capital, and different forms have different consequences.
- bonding social capital (that is, links among people who are like one an- other) is important for “getting by,”
- bridging social capital (that is, links among people who are unlike one another) is crucial for “getting ahead,”
- linking social capital (that is, vertical links to people in positions of authority) plays a special role in development and poverty alleviation.
Let us build social capital together.
There are many kinds of social capital: 
- financial – Money available for investment Real estate, equipment, and/or infrastructure
- physical – Training that increases productivity on the job
- human – Relationships of trust embedded in social networks
- cultural – High cultural knowledge that can be turned to the owner’s socioeconomic advantage
Social capital is recognized as an individual and a collective property. Many researchers take it for granted that social capital is collective, but most social surveys implicitly measure social capital at the individual level. Here is the ideal-typical situation in which individuals discover and use social capital: a group of people become connected via a certain kind of relations, and regardless of the exact nature of their relations, the members find that something possessed or produced by the group either itself is a valuable asset or can help them acquire other desirable benefits.
Three things in this situation are recognized as social capital, which overlap on top of each other: 
- group membership
- features of the relationship
- resources under the control of the group or dependent on the existence of the group.
At the core of social capital is trust with three crucial elements:
- Repeat exposure to others tends to lead to greater confidence that others can be trusted (assuming that parties respect conditions 2 and 3 below);
- The parties are honest in their communications; and
- The parties follow through on the commitments they make.
Individual social capital is defined by three dimensions: 
- the (number of) connections in the individual social network
- the resources these connections give access to
- the availability of these resources from alters to the individual, of which the willingness of alters is a major component.
On this basis, we define an individual’s social capital here as: 
The collection of resources owned by the members of an individual’s personal social network, which may become available to the individual as a result of the history of these relationships.
Connect with Your Calling is found in connections, in networks that bring forth relationships that make the whole community stronger.
I’ve been writing this blog for 3 years about helping people find connections they need that can empower them fulfill their purpose. I’m believing that I will be able to use this gift in my full-time career. I’ve gotten close a couple of times but so far nothing has materialized. Regardless, I’ve loved helping other people get the connections they need.
Okay, so I was set up. I thought I was going to see a comedy show in Nashville but in the middle of the jokes, I received a profound message. Michael Jr. is a great comedian who’s also a Christian. He does some of his shows at churches. I believe my answer was revealed at his show.
I grew up as a latch key kid and from about the age of eight I had to be very independent and responsible for myself. I’ve always taken pride in the things I was able to accomplish on my own without support from anyone. The problem with this is that because I’m seen as a strong, dependable person, I help others and don’t like asking others for help unless I can’t do it.
Michael Jr. showed me that I have a problem receiving from others. Getting things from people makes me feel uncomfortable unless it’s for a special occasion. I may be the reason that other people haven’t offered to support me. Would if that’s the reason my dreams haven’t materialized? What I finally accepted is that I should give to others but I should let others also be blessed by letting them give to me.
Michael Jr. did something so amazing at his show. He called up an audience member that happened to be deaf and her interpreter. He asked her if there was anything she needed. She was reluctant (she probably also had a problem receiving) but she eventually said she could use a special needs nurse to help take care of her child so she could go out on a date sometimes with her husband.
Michael Jr. asked if there was a special needs nurse in the audience and the was only one. So he connected them and the nurse was willing to help care for her child. Of course this gave me goose bumps as a person who loves to connect people. Stay tuned, he plans on doing this more at his shows and I hope I can somehow be a part of helping this project.