How to be Happy Today

Posted: May 28, 2015 in Achieving your Goals
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In today’s culture there’s an emphasis on achieving success which I think overall is positive but the downside is that happiness becomes contingent on reaching the destination instead of enjoying the journey along the way.  I recently heard some advice from Bishop T. D. Jakes about how to be happy while you’re in the process of pursuing goals that has helped me.

1. Own your own happiness

We shouldn’t continually blame others or circumstances for our unhappiness. At some point, we need to make the decision to move forward and take responsibility for our own happiness. This means that since we can’t control other people, we can’t base our happiness on what other people do or don’t do. We have control over how we respond to situations and can make the decision that our happiness is not dependent on people or certain outcomes.

2. Challenge your story

Challenge inaccurate beliefs that could be holding you back. For example, any negative event that happened to you that has caused you to believe that the situation will never get better. The only way past experiences can prevent you from being happy is if you continue to allow it. Even when bad things happen, we don’t have to continue to be a victim. We can use what we’ve gone through to make us stronger and/or use what we’ve learned to help others that have been through similar situations.

3. Enjoy the journey

The journey to reach big goals will have highs and lows. We can’t wait until we reach the destination to have joy, we’ll be happier if we learn to enjoy every step and appreciate what we learn along the way. Find something today that gives you joy in the current moment (celebrate the small victories) instead of focusing most of your energy on being preoccupied with the future.

4. Make every relationship count

I’ve discussed in previous posts how much meaningful relationships add value to our lives. Many memorable moments come from enjoying time with those that bring out the best out of us. Also many opportunities come from building quality relationships that align with our gifts and talents.

5. Balance work with play.

Our bodies need to be rejuvenated in order to stay happy and healthy. We can’t work so much that we forget to take the time to smell the roses. Happiness comes from having a balance between doing meaningful work and taking the time to enjoy the pleasures of life.

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