Signs of a Bad Connection

Posted: December 11, 2014 in Effective Networking
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I’ve focused most of my posts on networking to find connections that can help elevate you towards achieving your goals but it would be irresponsible of me not to warn you that at some point you’ll need to weed out the bad connections from the good. As I’ve mentioned previously, building a team around you that has synergy towards a common goal takes investing the time to cultivate relationships, and establishing trust. During this period, there will likely be people that initially seemed like a good connection but don’t meet your expectations as you see their character and commitment wane over a period of time.

So after several months of interacting with people you’re considering as core connections, take an audit of the relationship. Is the relationship balanced, meaning are they contributing regularly or constantly depleting your time, energy, and resources? What kind of influence are they on you, does being around them bring out the best or worst in you? Do they believe in your talents and encourage you or do they diminish your ideas and disparage your abilities? After conducting a relationship audit periodically you will know if a once good connection is shifting into a bad connection.

I’ve heard people say that it’s hard to cut people off because of the fear of hurting their feelings. It’s a difficult task to break up with people just like breaking off a bad romantic relationship. If the relationship is completely dysfunctional then you must immediately remove yourself from the situation. Otherwise, you can gradually break ties with them by setting up healthy boundaries and distancing interaction with them over time if the direct approach isn’t your style.


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